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“There is never a convenient place to fight a war when another man starts it” -Admiral Arleigh Burke
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It’s funny listening to men recount their experiences with violence.
I’ve noticed there are 2 distinct experiences — those that survived a true life-or-death confrontation and those who participated in social violence.
The first group usually never speaks about the subject. When they choose to share the experience, you notice that they are usually brutally honest by stating they often they were scared and were forced into action because there was no acceptable alternative.
There is no gloating over their surviving the experience and though many acted heroically they don’t see it that way. They see themselves as being fortunate to have survived and they hope never to be in that situation ever again.
Participants in social violence, however, often revel in retelling the exploit where “they kicked his ass”. Some enjoy telling every part of the “fight” and speak derisively of the other party.
They also give the impression they are ready to participate again should they ever be called upon to defend their honor, wife’s honor, a spilled drink, or receive an unwanted off color remark from a loudmouth.
Why the 2 different responses? The first group came in contact with that ultimate spectre – unavoidable life- or-death violence. No choice, no retreat, simply fight or die. In this situation you only survive it, and get on with your life.
The second group chose violence. They took a situation that was not life threatening and chose to respond with violence. This group enjoyed the domination of using violence (often the recipient was deserving) and it produced a base human reaction of control over another in the pecking order.
This is not to say that the 2nd situation could not have rapidly escalated to a lethal situation but using violence, as a response, was a deliberate choice.
People choose to use violence when they let their egos rule the situation. The unavoidable use of violence produces a very different outcome — the desire to not participate in it again.
When we train people in TFT(TM), we train them for unavoidable violence. We give them the tools to survive the situation using lethal, brutally effective methods. Many times those that stated they wanted this knowledge are those who have the hardest time dealing with the raw violence.
I notice a lot more talking during the more direct lethal techniques. I equate talking with fear — fear of this knowledge. Fear of really having to pull the trigger in a situation where they aren’t choosing to use violence but actually forced to do so or die.
Raw violence is not something I wish on anyone but I teach its use and methodology because when you need it you can’t have enough knowledge of the subject. And quite frankly the more competent I make you in that subject the less likely you’ll waste your time choosing to use social violence.
Seek out the difference in the 2 types of violence and you’ll live a better life.
Until next time,
Tim Larkin
Creator of Target Focus(TM) Training
http://targetfocustraining.com
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